How anxious or how desperate are you in thinking, “I should get my ex girlfriend back at any cost”? It is understandable if you are serious about it. But there is a difference between being serious about something and desperate about something! You want to revive and restore your relationship, which became strained in the past due to some hasty or indiscreet act by either of you or by both. But if you are overly anxious to get your ex back, you may be doing inappropriate things, resulting in your going farther away. Thus your desperate acts at reconciliation at any cost will only make matters worse for you.
Pressurized by the nagging thought, ‘What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back,’ you may be calling your ex too much. You keep writing to her and sending e-mails and text messages. Or, you may be trying to evoke her sympathy. Or worse still, you may be trying to make her feel guilty, so that she will come around to make up with you by saying ‘sorry.’ Unfortunately, all of these are likely to be counter-productive, producing results of just the opposite kind that you have been working for.
You may be beginning to get annoyed and yell, “So I am doing everything wrong. What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back? Do you have any ideas?”. Yes, I have, my good friend. And here are they. Try a couple of them and you will be amazed at the results.
You will have to start doing opposite of what you think you should be doing! (Do you experience a sensation of your head spinning? Good. It means that you have started taking it in!) First of all, allow the break off between you to last for a while. Turn your attention to doing your own thing. Focus on ways to improve your own personal life, now that you are not in touch with your ex. Let the relationship issues freeze for a while. This is going to be easy and it is going to need a lot of discipline from you..
Your ex is also going through this break off phase and she will have a chance to think about you and understand you in an objective way, since you are not pursuing her. Look at the advantages:
Perhaps for the first time, your ex is perceiving you as an enigma, because she is unable to decipher your feelings.
She will start feeling that she is missing you, which wouldn’t have been the case, if you were pursuing her relentlessly!
‘How does it help me?’ you may wonder. After all, the question, " What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back" is still petering you. You know what, you are using psychology, like an expert would! Implement this strategy and you will be amazed at the results. Thinking about you, your ex will rediscover why she loved you in the first place.