Thursday, February 12, 2015

Can I Confide in to My Friend About My Cheating Spouse?

When you come to know that your spouse has been cheating you, you may feel so agitated that you feel like sharing your feelings with someone. You may choose to confide in with your best friend, a close relative or someone who is a mutual friend of you and your spouse. However much you may like to pour out your feelings to someone and get some relief from your feelings of discomfort, embarrassment and anger, you should ponder over the idea before you rush into confiding in someone.

You need to consider two questions, whether you should confide in somebody at all and if you should, whom you could confide in.

Think about what can be wrong in sharing your agony with someone. What could be the fallout of your doing so, what problems you could face in future, how your spouse could react if they learn about this in future are some of the questions you need to find answers to decide whether you should talk to someone about your cheating spouse.

If you decide to talk to someone about your spouse's infidelity, then you have to decide whom you could talk to. You can't choose a person based on their closeness to you or on their being your well wisher. You have to consider the following:

1) Since the person you are confiding in is likely to give you some advice, can you evaluate that advice and take your decision or will you be influenced by what that person says and act on that? The advice of the other person will be based on their own perspective and personality and may not be in your best interest. In such a case, you may have to regret your action later. So choose a person with whose judgment you are likely to agree with.

2) You should be able to tell the person what you want and that person should be able to relate to you appropriately. If you tell your friend that while you are upset by your spouse's infidelity, you don't want to break with your cheating spouse, your friend should be able to give you advice appropriate with your objective.

3) The person you are confiding in about your cheating spouse should have an open mind. They should be willing to accept your decision even if it goes against their own advice. Some people are so egotistic that they will be upset that their advice has been ignored without appreciating the fact that you are doing something in your interest.

Sunday, April 6, 2014

How to get your ex girlfriend back?

How anxious or how desperate are you in thinking, “I should get my ex girlfriend back at any cost”? It is understandable if you are serious about it. But there is a difference between being serious about something and desperate about something! You want to revive and restore your relationship, which became strained in the past due to some hasty or indiscreet act by either of you or by both. But if you are overly anxious to get your ex back, you may be doing inappropriate things, resulting in your going farther away. Thus your desperate acts at reconciliation at any cost will only make matters worse for you.

Pressurized by the nagging thought, ‘What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back,’ you may be calling your ex too much. You keep writing to her and sending e-mails and text messages. Or, you may be trying to evoke her sympathy. Or worse still, you may be trying to make her feel guilty, so that she will come around to make up with you by saying ‘sorry.’ Unfortunately, all of these are likely to be counter-productive, producing results of just the opposite kind that you have been working for.

You may be beginning to get annoyed and yell, “So I am doing everything wrong. What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back? Do you have any ideas?”. Yes, I have, my good friend. And here are they. Try a couple of them and you will be amazed at the results.

You will have to start doing opposite of what you think you should be doing! (Do you experience a sensation of your head spinning? Good. It means that you have started taking it in!) First of all, allow the break off between you to last for a while. Turn your attention to doing your own thing. Focus on ways to improve your own personal life, now that you are not in touch with your ex. Let the relationship issues freeze for a while. This is going to be easy and it is going to need a lot of discipline from you..
Your ex is also going through this break off phase and she will have a chance to think about you and understand you in an objective way, since you are not pursuing her. Look at the advantages:
 Perhaps for the first time, your ex is perceiving you as an enigma, because she is unable to decipher your feelings.
 She will start feeling that she is missing you, which wouldn’t have been the case, if you were pursuing her relentlessly!

‘How does it help me?’ you may wonder. After all, the question, " What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back" is still petering you. You know what, you are using psychology, like an expert would! Implement this strategy and you will be amazed at the results. Thinking about you, your ex will rediscover why she loved you in the first place.

Monday, April 29, 2013

How Can I Make My Boyfriend Get Back Together With Me

Breakups happen for a variety of reasons, and sometimes relationships just aren't meant to be.  This isn't the case for every relationship, though.  A number of breakups happen for trivial reasons or during the heat of the moment.  Some guys simply decide to split up with a woman because of their friends or as a result of a misunderstanding or countless other peculiar or baffling causes.  It really doesn't matter what the reason was for the breakup, though--you can make your boyfriend get back together with you if you try, regardless of why he broke up with you.

You are likely wondering exactly how you can get your boyfriend to want to come back to you.  Frankly, it may not be simple; however, if you follow these tips, you will see success.

First of all, it is important to think about why your relationship ended.  You will need to figure out a way to fix the problem that caused the breakup; after all, if this issue is not addressed and corrected, chances are it could cause another breakup in the future.  And will your boyfriend get back together with you a second time after splitting up again because of the same issue? It's doubtful.  So it is in your best interest to take care of any problems now, before reconciling.

Next, think about improving your appearance.  Try out a new hairstyle or new hair color.  Get some new clothing outfits, or work on creating new looks with the clothing you already own.  A change in your appearance is something that will definitely catch your boyfriend's eye.

It is also a good idea to try to get people talking about you around your boyfriend, if possible.  For instance, you could ask mutual friends to chat about a new promotion you got or about the travel plans you are considering for the following summer.  When your boyfriend hears about you in different and exciting ways, he will begin to think about how nice it would be if he were sharing those adventures with you.  He will also remember the fun times you and he had together.

Go to places that your boyfriend goes to--but, do not be blatant about your intentions of getting back together as a couple.  For example, it would make sense for you to go to a coffee shop in the neighborhood in which both of you live (just happening to drop in when you know he might be there, of course).  Attending parties hosted by mutual friends is also fine.  However, it would be a bad idea to drive a half hour out of your way just to have lunch at a diner near his workplace--that is far too obvious.

Think about why your boyfriend originally fell in love with you.  Try to be that person again.  Be positive and casual when you are around your boyfriend.  Eventually, he'll want to come back to you to rebuild your relationship.

Sunday, April 28, 2013

He Dumped Me--How Do I Get Over It

Everyone hopes that their relationships will stand the test of time.  Unfortunately, though, many relationships fail--and most of us end up dealing with more than a few broken hearts during our lifetimes.  It's tough enough when a breakup happens as a mutual decision; however, when a guy dumps you, that can make it even more difficult to handle.

If he dumped you and you need some help in getting over the loss, read the following suggestions and give them a try.  They will help you to live through the stormy days following the breakup and come out on the other side feeling ready to move on.

1.  Go ahead and grieve.

While it may sound melodramatic to 'grieve' over a breakup, you have experienced a deep loss.  Therefore, you need to grieve and get those emotions out.  For the first few days it is ok to cry and mope around and feel sorry about what you have lost.  Get support from close friends if needed, but do NOT contact your ex.  You need to let go of the relationship, act as if it is buried and gone.

2.  Get rid of any evidence of your ex.

Go through all of your belongings and get rid of everything that reminds you of the breakup.  Put away all photos of him and any gifts he gave you.  As for what to do with them, it depends.  You may want to pack up photos as possible mementos for years later.  With gifts, you may want to pack them up, sell them, give them away, or donate them.  It is completely your decision as to what to do; however, be sure to get everything out of your sight.

Don't forget to change or remove any of your ex's playlists on your iPod or MP3 player.  Change your telephone ringtones if necessary as well.  Eliminate all traces of him from your life so that there will be nothing to remind you of him on a daily basis.

3.  Make a list of what irked you about your ex.

Yes, right now you are still missing him because he dumped you; however, take a few moments and think about how your relationship really was.  There had to be some habits or quirks about your boyfriend that you found to be exasperating.  Write these down--as many as you can.  Think about everything, from big issues (maybe he refused to stop talking on his cell while driving, even though you considered this to be dangerous) to the little concerns (perhaps he often spilled sugar on the counter when making his morning coffee and never wiped it up).

The point of making this list is to show you that your relationship was not perfect and that your ex is not worthy of being worshipped.  In addition, you may just see that there were troubles in the relationship...and that perhaps a part of you already realized that you two weren't the ideal couple.

Maybe he dumped you--but you will survive and find a way to move on if you follow these suggestions.  

Saturday, April 27, 2013

Salvaging Your Relationship

Even if you think that your relationship is bound for doom and failure, you can still salvage what you have and bring things back to normal. Even better, you can go back to the times when things were sweet and beautiful. It may be hard to believe that even in the worst situations, you can still make things work. For whatever reason it is, whether it’s infidelity, loss of passion or interest, or a heart that does not want to open up, you can still get what you want.

Unbelievable? Maybe. But it definitely is true.  TW Jackson’s eBook has been called the greatest help in any relationship. Many can attest to how effective it really is. The people who have purchased this product have been through every kind of problem, and all of them were happy with how things have worked out. Everything has a solution and you can finally reunite with your loved one and reignite the spark. What TW gives is a recipe. He reveals the secrets to a happy relationship. If you are in it for the long haul, you need to visit his website and get his book. This does not involve any love spell or witchcraft. In fact, it’s plain and simple common sense, one that many don’t know much about.

It’s time to erase all your hurts and start things right. You see, there is a solution to everything. You just need the right person to show you what it is. What are you waiting for? Purchase this eBook now!

Friday, April 26, 2013

Solutions To Everyday Love Problems

Studies have suggested that while everyday fights may not get to you and your loved one immediately, it does eventually take its toll. You can't expect to solve all your problems with just a snap. Nonetheless, there are things you can do as an individual and as a couple to do more than just hold grudges. If you're as invested in your relationship as you believe you are, it's time to make a few small changes. Adjust to your needs and know what your partner wants. Don't expect the other person's mind to work like yours. You may not be in the same frequency all the time, but your man will certainly appreciate you if you show him respect.

You Get Into an Argument

You both blow your tops. Sure, arguments are part and parcel of every relationship, but then again, you also need to choose your battles. So what if he's into his Monday night football games? You also have your own thing. Never leave an argument feeling unsettled. Not only will you lose sleep, you'll also feel listless and uneasy while you haven't settled your issues with your man just yet. After a blowup, call a friend. Don't confront him while your tempers are flaring. Just know that most men prefer to keep their opinions to themselves. Even if they have a best friend to run to, they don't always run out the door to talk about what had just transpired. It might take him longer to recover from a tiff, which is why you also need to be careful who you share your sob stories with. Never go to a friend who loves to meddle. Remember, only two people are involved here: him and you. Open up and talk about it if you must, but remember, this isn't about getting anyone on your side. It's more on you looking for a way to feel better without having to drag anyone else into it.

If You Haven't Seen Him in a While

They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but if you spend too much time apart, this could be worrisome as well. Just remember to know when your demands are reasonable. You don't need to spend every waking hour with him near you. It's more about the quality of time you have when you're together. You can make it through a couple of days without seeing him. What's more important here is that you know he's thinking about you. And when you do get to meet, be affectionate and show him how much you value his presence. This could actually be the very thing that inspires him to go out of his way to see you more often.

When Both Your Tempers are Running High

Some fights are triggered by stress. Beat burnout  by lifting each other's sprits up. Don't expect him to do all the work. Relationships are all about the give and take. You get what you put forth and also know that you can rely on yourself to feel better. Men like women who are independent. Show him that you're a strong and solid woman who wants nothing but the best for her man. If you see that he's unable to take any more stress, make him a cup of coffee and talk about more interesting things. He'll open up to you if and when he's ready, and that time will only come when he sees that you're not there to add stress to his life. In fact, he can count on you to put a smile on his face after a long and tedious day in the office.

You Don't Like Some of the People He Hangs Out with

Be it with his mom or a group of guy friends who can be obnoxious at times, value his personal time and see why he loves these people. Openly and frankly telling him that his friends are douchebags only drives the wedge deeper into your growing distance. Be civil and get to know the individuals in his life. He must love them for a reason and it's time you see and understand why he does.

How Do I Get My Ex Back - Your Answer To The Question

You might have asked yourself the question “how do I get my ex back?” recently.

If you’ve asked yourself that question, the good news is that you are not alone.  All over the country there are people suffering from the same condition that you are.  They have been dumped by someone they love and for that reason are finding it hard to let go of that person.  You might not think that you are hung up on the person, but you owe it to your own mental wellbeing in order to make sure.  There is a thin line between seeking a healthy renewal of a relationship with an ex and obsession.  The moment you cross that line, you’ve taken the road to making your life miserable.

There are actually many ways for you to tell whether you are taking the road to ruin or whether you genuinely do feel that resuming things with the ex would be a healthy way to go forward.  If you feel the uncontrollable urge to push the issue every time you think about it, chances are pretty good that you are taking the road to ruin.  If you feel like you can bide your time and develop a friendship with your former lover before taking things back to the next level, you are in healthy mentality area.  Generally speaking, your mindset and the first strategies that come to your mind will give you away.

This fits in nicely with the strategies that don’t work and the ones that do.  The strategies that you’d think of when you were obsessing would mostly be strategies that had no chance of working.  The strategies that you’d come up with (like going through friendship) when thinking about building healthy relationships are the ones that really have the chance of working.

Whatever you do, you do not want to rush things with your ex.  If they broke up with you, they are going to need to get over the breakup before they can be coaxed back into a relationship.  This is true even if you broke up with them since it is hurt rather than distaste that they need to get over.  The truth of the matter is that you need to give them a lot of time and space at first, gradually closing both the time and the space as you begin to get your foot back in the door with them.  It may not be pretty, but it is definitely going to be the best chance that you have.

At the start of this article, you asked a question.  You asked “how do I get my ex back?”  The answer is now available to you in the whole truth and nothing but the truth.  If you take these methods here and apply them to your own life, you will have a better chance at getting your ex back than you would have from any other strategy you could employ.  That is a fact.  It is the truth without any sugar-coating.